Are you/your partner committing domestic abuse? Question Title * 1. Are you/your partner committing any of the following psychological-based domestic abuse? Insult your partner or call her/him names Make her/him out to be stupid or mad Blame her/him down, make her/him feel guilty Twist her/his words Lie or deny what you have done 'Eye up' other women/men; threaten affairs Sulk or withhold attention or support Tell her/him to leave Threaten suicide, self-harm if she/he leaves you Manipulate the children to take sides Threaten to involve social services Accuse her/him of having affairs Not keep to your agreements Demand obedience from him/her Force her/him to do housework to your standards Treat her/him as a servant; act as "Lord/Lady of the Manor" Interrupt her/him or not let her/him speak Ignore her/him, 'blank' her/him or refuse to listen Dictate what clothes she/he wears Prevent her/him having contact with friends/family Not let her/him go where or when she/he wants Restrict her/his use of the car or telephone Make her/him account for every minute of their time Listen to her/his phone calls or read her/his mail Deprive her/him of food or sleep OK Question Title * 2. Click which of the following forms of financial domestic abuse you/your partner has committed Exclude her/him from deciding about spending money Make your partner ask or beg for money Leave her/him house-bound with all the childcare Make her/him account for every penny she/he spends Spoil her/his chances of paid work Hold money back or steal from her/him Be secretive about money Put her/him on an 'allowance' OK Question Title * 3. Have you/your partner ever committed the following examples of sexual domestic abuse? Get angry if you don't have sex Put her/him down, humiliate sexually Insist on sex without condom or protection Touch sexually in a way she/he does not like Use pressure or threats to obtain sex Make her/him perform sexual acts against will Physically attack sexual parts of her/his body Insist on sex when she/he doesn't feel like it Treat her/him like a sex object Force her/him to use pornography Force her/him into prostitution Force her/him to have sex with someone else OK Question Title * 4. Do you/your partner commit the following intimidation-based domestic abuse techniques? Use aggressive looks or gestures Swear, shout or scream in her/his face Make her/him do degrading things Harass her/him by spying; stalking; checking up Threaten to kill her/him Threaten her/him with weapon or object Threaten to hurt the children in front of her/him Threaten to harm other family members/pets Rip, destroy or soil his/her clothes Pound your fists or punch the wall, doors Throw food, objects, furniture around Destroy possessions she/he loves Drive fast or recklessly Not leave when asked Stand over her/him Prevent her/him from leaving OK Question Title * 5. Have you/your partner committed any of the following physical acts of domestic abuse? Spit at her/him Poke or prod with finger Push, pull or trip her/him Hold, grab or shake her/him Push her/him down stairs Pin her/him to a wall or floor Drag by clothes/arm/leg/hair Slap, hit or spank her/him Pull her/his hair Sit, kneel or stand on her/him Bite, pinch or squeeze Punch with fist Kick or knee her/him Burn with cigarette Scald with hot drink/water Hold by arms or shoulders Twist finger, arm or leg Bang her/his head or body Head-butt Hold by throat Choke or strangle Smother her/his mouth Violence during pregnancy Cut, slash or stab with knife Violent sex/rape Thrown food/things at her/him Use of weapon or object Violence to pets Violence to children Violence to family/friends Tie or lock her/him up Throw her/him around OK FINISHED!